Sorry bud, I understand your position. I miss the old reddit too but less so what it has morphed into the past couple years. Lemmy is young, and yeah, some folks here walk/cross some lines I wouldn’t. There is a bit of a bot problem creeping in but lemmy is t big enough for that to be a serious problem yet.
But then again you’re exactly the user we need. My presence here is what I want lemmy to be and yeah, I’ve locked horns with some folks on some discussions. In the end it’s us users who make lemmy what it is.
People don’t use VPN to bypass CGNAT, they use it to protect their IP address. The 'ol saying “Don’t shit where you eat” applies. Probably worth looking into depending on location.