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Cake day: March 10th, 2025

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  • Wasn’t the opinion of my psychologist about me. She told me I’m mildly autistic and that I show little empathy.

    For example I saw a dead pigeon on the bike lane and my concern was: my wife behind me might ride over it and be distressed.

    And it’s not that I care about her being distressed if I’m saying the truth. It’s that her distress would be a pain to handle. That the bike would be dirty which would cause further distress to my wife.

    Her response to seeing the dead pigeon was that she thought it was sad.

    Empathy is tricky 🤷🏻‍♂️ the only thing I feel about this truly, is guilt. But that’s all.




  • I’ll be getting 20 days time off and on top of that I can choose between 4 months of time off if I so wish.

    Other options are 1 day off for 20 months or half a day off for 40 months.

    The thing I’m truly desiring from this is that the flemish government is protecting me from being fired the moment I request this extra parental leave.

    If they cannot prove that they fire me for good reasons, then they’ll have to pay me 6 months wage on top of the rest.

    So if they are going to downsize, or whatever, they’ll be less prone to pick me.

    I’ll take either the 20 or 40 months on this one.

    My wife doesn’t have a choice, she’s 7 weeks pregnant now. Taking off work until 1 June. Then maternity leave starting 1 august (is what her HR said, even though internet says 6 weeks instead of 12, but perhaps it’s cuz it’s a physical job) until 15 weeks after the birth.

    Personally I will do anything I can to make sure we have a long term source of income.

    Keeping a good relationship with the place that pays me my wage will be beneficial.

    I’ll take a bulk of 1 or 2 weeks of paternal leave when the baby is born. Take one day off afterwards for 2 years.