• Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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      13 hours ago

      Dude this makes me sad. Many times I ended up doing the same thing because I got busy. Then my best friend died and I never got to say goodbye. Sucks.

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    Yeah, but how happy would you be to suddenly receive a:

    “Hi, apologies for the delayed reply, it turns out I’m really bad at replying to messages. Anyway, I would absolutely love to meet up whenever suits you best - although I do understand you sent that message in 2006, and circumstances have likely changed…”

    ?

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    I hate that I do this, but when I do finally respond to an email or letter and it’s been too long, I sign off with “Yours eventually”

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      Yeah same. I don’t have many friends and those I do I neglect. I don’t deserve them.

      Just moved house, working 2 jobs, finding it hard to fit everything in

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    For me is more like “when i have the time i will reply”

    Two seconds later: “i believe i have already replied to it so it’s fine”

    Next day looking at my phone:

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    Your friends know you have an executive function disorder. They will still be happier to get a response eventually. There might be some gentle ribbing, but it’ll be intended to be taken in stride.

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      I didn’t know I was on the spectrum until I got diagnosed earlier this year; I’d made this comic well before then (/I’m just sharing my old comics in this community) but in hindsight there’s a few of them that make more sense to me now that I know.

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        Hehe, yeah. Well, it’s not like there is a small amount of us. And that’s without including all the people that just don’t know yet. So, it still makes for popular comic material.

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          Y’all, I still haven’t responded to a wedding invitation from more than a year ago. I said “no” after careful thought about travel expenses, but I wanted so much to follow up with a thoughtful response and just. Didn’t. Even though I think about it at least monthly. Last thought about it was, “well, maybe the 2nd year anniversary of the invitation is the right time to respond.” Fucking awful.

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    I’ve been thinking every so often that I need to reply to my friend’s text, because it’s been a while since he messaged me. Thinking it’d only been a few weeks, maybe a month tops.

    He texted me last June.

    …I am an irredeemable monster

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    I don’t think day 2 actually requires an apology, it’s pretty clear that yesterday was probably busy. The whole advantage of SMS is the messages can be chronologically separated, maybe I like to go through them in the mornings or something.

    Day 3, sure I can see wanting to apologize there.