I did call them out a bit. The thing that broke me was when I said something like “I provide a lot more than financial support. I cook, clean, change diapers etc…” And I saw the group split between the guys who do that stuff and those who don’t.
It made me sad, a lot of these guys are only a few years older than me and can’t really blame it on “how things used to be”. I felt like I was in the 50s or something and I needed to check if the bathrooms were segregated. I’ve never seen such ignorant toxic masculinity in real life, and I used to work in construction 10 years ago.
My wife said something like “the patriarchy hurts everyone, men included” and everything made a lot more sense.